Self Help Motivation

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Parents have the opportunity to be, and should be, the most profound influence in their children’s lives.  Yet they relinquish this wonderfully incredible opportunity and responsibility for a career, money, or other self-interests.  What kind of message are you sending to your child when out of all things you do, your child gets the least amount of your time, attention, and interest?  And more and more this is happening from a very young age (infants are placed in daycare at 6 weeks old!).  On work days you spend far more time at work, and getting to and from work, than you do with your child.  If you bring work home your child gets even less of your time and attention.

What does it do for a child’s self-worth (self-esteem) not to be the most important thing in their parent’s life?  Kids want to feel important to their parents.  Where are you choosing to spend most of your time and efforts?  Taking your child to soccer practice and watching is not really spending time with your child.  Kids need to feel and know that they are the most important part of your life.  They need to feel special.  They need to feel that they are worth your time and attention.  They need to know that you are really interested in them.

The shift in our society from the importance of such nontangible things as morals, values, relationships, and family, to material things such as a career, degree, expensive house, expensive car, hobbies, and luxuries, has caused our children to be angry, unmotivated, uncaring, and feeling unloved (they may not even realize that they feel this way).  We have come to value all the things that are really not that important.  Have you ever heard someone say, “He’s such a good person because he has his PhD?”  Or, “I like him because he has his Ph.D.”  We like someone because of who they are.  How they treat us.  Accomplishing some deed or status, such as being a great athlete or getting a Ph.D. doesn’t mean you’re a good person.

Without mentioning names or bashing any one in particular, we are all aware of actors, athletes, politicians, and others who are of questionable character.  Getting a college degree does not necessarily make you a good person.  Yet that’s what our society emphasizes.  We might automatically assume that a cancer researcher is a good person because of what he does for his career and society.  Maybe he does it just because he loves doing research.  Maybe she does it because she finds it challenging and loves to solve problems.   How he lives his life outside the lab will tell if he truly is a caring person.  Think of an airplane engineer.  Did he go into this profession because he cares about people or because he loves airplanes and likes to design them?  I’m not saying that such people as cancer researchers and airplane engineers don’t care about people.  Maybe many of these people did go into these professions to help people.  My point is the emphasis and importance we place on things.  Sure cancer research is important, as well as is designing a good airplane.  But what are these people like outside of their jobs?  What kind of a person are they then?  And if they have children, what kind of parent are they?  We assume that he is good person because of his job and what he is doing for society, but how is he as a father.  Does he put anywhere near the same thought, creativity, effort, and time into his children?  The following advertisement in my local newspaper illustrates this point.  The article is introducing a new physician at one of the local hospitals.  Here it is: “ … is pleased to welcome endocrinology specialist Dr. ——–.  In his spare time, Dr. ——– enjoys playing classical acoustic guitar, sailing, and spending time with his family.”  Not only does his family get only his spare time, but they get the last portion of that little bit of time.  In trying to be fair, one might understand that the majority of a physician’s day may go to his practice.  However, how sad to think that his family is lumped in with his other “spare time” activities.  And we wonder why our families are falling apart and our children have problems.  These are just a few examples of careers/jobs that highlight the emphasis we place on things. In our society, there are almost as many examples as there are jobs.

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Improve your education through self help motivation.

School does not equip us with the knowledge to handle life. Hopefully it equips us with enough knowledge to start learning about life. Schools rarely imbue their students with the kind of knowledge that will be needed in the arenas of finance and personal growth and in these areas self education will be paramount.

Many students who do well in school and in later life are those who learned to organize their own learning and became adept at self study. For them, life is a continuous learning process where they will strive to understand and re-understand in order to get things right.

Here are six ways by which you can continue your self education.

• Become Engaged

Engage with those around you and let them become your teachers. Watch how children go about their daily lives. Kids aren’t weighed down with the accumulated baggage of life and often go about things in an entirely and more effective way than adults. Listen to what they say and the actions they take and see if you can discover from them a simpler way of dealing with day to day problems.

• Be Nosier

Let your curiosity lead you to new learning experiences. By asking questions of yourself and others you may discover solutions to issues that have confused you in the past. Never accept life at face value. It is by questioning that we overcome the hypnosis of social conditioning.

• Read Your Way Forward

It’s a great shame that many people quit reading as soon as they leave school. After all, books are a way for one consciousness to communicate with another. All of life is contained in books, anything you would wish to learn. The level of your current education merely determines the type of book you might read. The more you read, the further your knowledge will expand. It has been said that those who can read and do not are worse off than who cannot read.

• Fail More

Failure is a dirty word in our society and yet without failure we cannot advance. Imagine if as a toddler you gave up trying to walk the first time you fell down! Replace the word “failure” with “feedback” and you will be much closer to the truth.

Here’s the formula in a nutshell. You try. You get results. Some results are not what you wanted. Discard the unwanted results. Keep the wanted results. Try again. Discard the unwanted results. Keep the wanted results. Try again, and keep trying until you have achieved the desired outcome. Remember. Every step takes you one step closer.

• Learn From Those Who Can And Have Done

One of the common traits among the self educated is that they love to share their experiences. Whole lifetimes have been condensed into books, audios and videos. This means that you have full access to their knowledge via libraries, bookstores and the Internet and much of this knowledge is free.

• Hey Teacher

Make a decision that you will use self help motivation to become your own teacher and educator. No one will ever be as good as you are at teaching you. Once you have made the decision, the teaching will go along all by itself because a self learner is not something you do, it’s something you are. Make the decision and soon the world around you will become your teacher. As your knowledge and understanding expand, so will your self confidence.

With self help motivation you can teach yourself to be all that you wish to be.

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