What is Self Help Motivation and why do we need it?
There are basically two types of self help motivation. “Away From” motivation and “Towards” motivation.
Perhaps a couple of examples are in order.
“Away From” motivation
1# You have an exam to sit tomorrow. You haven’t studied. You have only this evening to learn what you need to know, so you cram like mad through to the early hours of the morning because you really need to pass that exam. The fact that you left it to the last minute motivates you to study hard.
2# You really should have made that car payment but you just haven’t got round to it. Now the car company is chasing you and you need your car, so you make sure you pay that bill just as quickly as you can.
In both of these examples your motivation is “fear based”. i.e. Something you “don’t” want to happen. The fear of failing at an exam and the fear of losing your car.
“Towards” motivation
Lets use the same examples. You know you have an important exam coming up and that you have time to study for it. You plan your study sessions out and stick to them because you want to sit the exam in a calm and relaxed way, thereby giving yourself the best chance of passing.
You know that your car is important to you and that your car company gives payment discount if you pay automatically via your bank so you set up automatic car payments so that that you never miss a payment and you save some money.
Here your motivation is “expectancy based”. i.e. Something that you “do” want to happen. You plan ahead, expecting a good outcome.
Now here’s the important thing. Neither of these motivation types are “right” or “wrong”. It all depends on the circumstances and the way you work.
You may be the kind of person who actually does better at exams by leaving everything to the last minute. I know I am. You may prefer to juggle your finances on a day to day basis than to leave everything to someone else.
Whichever type we are, we all need motivation or to be motivated from time to time. This motivation might come from a friend, a family member or even an enemy. It might come from a film you’ve watched or music you’ve listened to or an inspiring book that you’ve read. It can come from something you don’t want or something that you do want.
So how can we ensure ourselves of some Self Help Motivation. Here are are some tips that I hope will help.
Create a No Neg Zone. Stay away from Negative Places. Negative Things. Negative People.
Avoid the dream stealer’s. We’ve all met some of them.
Avoid procrastination.
Visualise that which you want.
Ask yourself why you want that which you want. The bigger the WHY the greater the motivation.
Conclusion.
Self Help Motivation will create the link between your self-development and the incredible life that you can aspire to. Know that it can be so.
There Are No Such Things As Mistakes, Only Feedback and Self Help Motivation