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Overcome your worries with self help motivation.
We all worry about things from time to time. It’s human nature. But for some people worry can become so intense that it can shape and mold their lives for the worse. For these people, worry has become a habit and often they worry about things that are trivial and, as crazy as it sounds, will start to worry if they have nothing to worry about!
A certain amount of concern over a particular situation is a good thing. Concern generally means that we need to think about the situation, to analyze it, to plan around it and this is what distinguishes the non-worrier from the habitual worrier.
The basis of worry is fear. Knowing this we can learn to face our fears by logical thought and analysis.
- Give Thought To What Worries You
Worry like fear is a knee jerk reaction and often prevents us from applying reasoning and logical thought to our situation. Firstly be aware of the emotion of fear. Simply admit to yourself that “this situation worries me” and move on to something else. When it is convenient to do so, give some thought to your concerns.
- Analyze
You might discuss your concerns with someone whom you trust and ask them to repeat your concerns to you. You can write them down. This is an excellent start in analyzing your worries. Some times it’s difficult to think because we’re to busy worrying. But by discussing them or writing them down you can attempt to study them dispassionately.
- Three Types Of Concern
Firstly, is the thing you’re worrying about worth worrying about? Sometimes simply studying the situation shows that it’s not.
Secondly, if the thing you’re worrying about is of genuine concern, can you actually do anything about it. In many cases you will not be able to alter the outcome and will have to accept this and move on. Take for example the reported shortage of oil. Many people worry about it but cant actually do anything about increasing oil stocks. So there’s really no point in worrying.
Thirdly, if having analyzed your concern you feel that there is something you can do about it. Great. Get on and do it.
This advice is reflected in a prayer written by Elisabeth Sifton. Note that it is known as “The Serenity Prayer”.
So. What are some of the things people worry about. And how can we use self help motivation to overcome them. Here are a few examples.
- Health
Bit of a paradox this one. Worrying about your health is a sure way to poor health. If you need to see a doctor, see a doctor. If in doubt, read The Serenity Prayer again.
- Lack Of Money
If you’re in debt, plan your way out of it. Get help and advice. Often, talking it through with a debt counselor can work wonders.
- Concern For Others
Do what you can. Sometimes you can do nothing and just have to let people do whatever is is they are bent on doing. Again, in the case of drink or drugs abuse, counseling is often the wisest choice. If you’re concerned that someone you love wants to go rough water rafting or it’s time for a child to start traveling to school on their own, you may have to invest in trust.
- What Will They Think Of Me?
Generally speaking, “others” do not think of us at all. They’re to busy thinking about themselves. The only standards that you have to live up to are those that you’ve impose upon yourself.
- Decisions. Decisions
Many people worry over making the “right” decision. Life is all about taking risks. Some small and some large. Usually your subconscious will know what choice to make but doubt and worry can get in the way. In this kind of situation many people will go by gut instinct and are right more times than not.
- Summary
One of the most helpful resources I can point you to is “Stop Worrying And Start Living” by Dale Carnegie. This book has helped thousands of people overcome the debilitating effect of worrying. I know it certainly helped me.
Wishing you Health, Wealth and Happiness from the team at Self Help Motivation.net